The confidence blend
Low confidence is five different habits wearing one name: expecting to fail, going quiet, asking everyone else, agreeing to everything, and wobbling under a load you can actually carry. There is a remedy for each, which is the point of a blend.
The five inside, and why each is there
Each one covers a different face of the same situation, and the blend is all of them together. Read any of them in full to see how much of it is yours, and buy them singly if you would rather mix your own.
LarchFor deciding you will fail before you have tried, and never finding out you would not have.Check price on Amazon(opens on Amazon in a new tab)
MimulusFor the shyness and the nameable nerves, the meeting, the phone call, the room full of strangers.Check price on Amazon(opens on Amazon in a new tab)
CeratoFor trusting everyone's judgment except your own, and asking three people before deciding anything.Check price on Amazon(opens on Amazon in a new tab)
CentauryFor the no that will not come out, and the ground quietly given up to keep the peace.Check price on Amazon(opens on Amazon in a new tab)
ElmFor the capable person's wobble, when the size of your own responsibilities briefly stops you believing you carry them well.Check price on Amazon(opens on Amazon in a new tab)
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When people reach for it
- You stay quiet in meetings even when you know the answer
- You do not apply, ask or volunteer, though you could do the job
- You ask several people before trusting a decision you had already made
- You agree to things you did not want and hear yourself doing it
How to take it
Two drops of each of the five into a 30ml bottle of spring water, four drops four times a day. That is the blend as it stands, and two weeks is a fair test of it.
Confidence rarely needs all five, so this is one to read through properly. Go back over the habits above and keep the ones you actually recognize. The blend works better as a portrait of you than as a shopping list.
While you are taking it, put yourself in front of one of the situations on the list above, because the remedies traditionally work alongside the trying, not instead of it.
The mixing guide walks through the whole method, bottle sizes and all.
Common questions
Which remedy is best for confidence?
Larch, if you have to pick one. Expecting to fail is the habit underneath most of the others, and the tradition associates Larch with the quiet confidence to have a go rather than a sudden swagger. Start there and add Mimulus if the nerves have names.
What about public speaking?
Mimulus and Larch through the preparation, since a named dread plus expected failure is the classic speaking picture, and the crisis formula on the day for the hour around the talk itself. The combination covers the pattern and the moment separately, which is how the system likes to work.
Is this the same as the shyness remedy?
Mimulus is the traditional shyness remedy and it is in the blend. The others cover what usually travels with shyness: the self doubt, the second guessing and the swallowed no. If shyness is the whole story, Mimulus alone is a clean place to start.
Can confidence really change?
The habits that make up low confidence can, and those are what the remedies address in the tradition: the reflex of expecting failure, the reflex of asking permission. What people report is not becoming someone else but becoming less obedient to those reflexes, which from the outside looks exactly like confidence.
A blend is one answer for everyone
If what you are carrying is a pattern rather than a situation, a remedy chosen for how you actually feel will fit better. The quiz narrows the 38 in about a minute.